One Look Is All It Takes
My addiction started when I was in the 4th grade, and a friend of mine had stumbled into his grandfathers stash of Playboy magazines, along with a few other things. So, there I was about 7 years old and I took my first look at pornography. It was innocent enough at the time, and many would argue that a young boy wanting to look at such things is completely normal, and even healthy in some respects. I can’t vouch for any of that, all I know is that that one glance turned into a second and a third, and gradually built and built until my life became unmanageable. And if that’s healthy, then I think I’d rather be sick.
The point here is that when a young pre-pubescent boy sees graphic nudity it makes a lasting impact. More-so, the fact that my experience with pornogrpahy was my the first “sexual” experience in my life, that is emotionally scaring. And, like many things, if that’s your first experience then it cannot be undone. I want to clarify to the power of a parents central involvement in a child’s life, and discussing such things with a child at the time something like this happens can have a major impact on the trajectory of a persons life. But like I said, because it was the first it cannot be undone.
Does this story sound familiar? it should, and in fact the vast majority of recovery pornography addicts I know have almost the exact same story as mine. All that being said if you are a parent then YOU have a choice. Make the right choice to DO SOMETHING, anything, to make sure your kids are safe from viewing sexually explicit images. And I’m not just talking nudity here, but anything that is sexually explicit in nature.
I know what your thinking, that’s great but what I can do? It’s everywhere! Here’s a good way to get started:
- Installing filtering and accountability software on all of your computers, phones, tablets etc. (I also recommend insisting that all of your children’s friends parents do the same)
- Lock Down all devices, media servers, video game systems (pretty much anything with a screen….friends too)
- Talk to your kids. Really talk to them. Ask them questions, and don’t be fooled into thinking it’s harmless and a part of life.
- Pray. Pray for kids and grow spiritually so that you will be equipped to handle these types of situations when they happen.
At the end of the day please just do something. Be your child’s hero, and save them from a life long addiction to pornography.
Joe has been attending COMPASS meetings for over a year. He lives in DuPage County with his wife and son.